20.2.16

My Story: The Wedding Dress

Wedding Dress Shopping Plus Size
I decided that I wanted to keep the specific details of my Wedding off my blog. I'm of the mind set that some things should just remain private. There have been little hints to my plans and today I wanted to share an insight into my experience of dress shopping. I decided to write this piece after hours of watching "Say Yes to the Dress" and finally realising that the fairytale doesn't always live up to expectations but I'm okay with that.

Mr Sugarpuffish and I have been together for 10 years so we decided not to have a long engagement and we organised a wedding in quicker time than most people. It's a small event so organising hasn't been too overwhelming but dress shopping almost pushed me over the edge! 

I was fighting against my feelings. I wanted a wedding dress but I was battling those inner demons of weight alongside not being your typical girlie girl. I am not in denial about being a plus size but I soon realised the world of wedding dresses is alienating to larger ladies. I ended up doing a bit of research and luck would have it I had a couple of bridal shops within easy reach that stocked plus size designers. It made sense to seek them out because it was totally humiliating, picking a beautiful dress, standing semi naked in front of a stranger and realising that the sample dress is not going past your knees!

I wasn't about to go on some crash diet. Mr Sugarpuffish met me at the size I am and loves me. I'm not about to go changing myself just because it's expected of me. If you're a bride who wants to lose 2 dress sizes before the big day then good on you for doing it. I for one am sick of the pressure. Of course I want to look my best, I have made better food choices, I have beaten myself up over a bar of chocolate but then I came back down to earth. I am who I am and I like food and hate the gym. 

Who I took with me to my appointments was really important. Those who are closest to me, understand my body concerns and give me confidence when most needed. I struggled seeing myself in a dress but when my sister and best friend demanded I order the dress straight away, that gave me the boost I needed. 

My wedding dress has currently taken over my wardrobe but the next stage is alterations so I'm looking forward to having the dress fit me correctly. It will make all the difference to how I see myself and I can't wait to wear it on my big day. 

Sarah x

6 comments:

  1. Good for you for being true to yourself Sarah, though I couldn't imagine you being anything else! X

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  2. It can definitely be a lot of pressure in finding your dress. I was really lucky to find a old magazine with a dress I wanted found someone who knew the designer who only had one dress left and it was my size. When I tried it the lady in the shop said it sat so perfect I wasn't allowed to loose or put on any weight. Which also is a task in itself. Even though I was very lucky I did go to few shops before I found the one. The people you choose to come with you is so important too. I'm sure you'll feel amazing in your dress on the day.

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    1. staying the same over probably a 6-8 month period is difficult, currently what my mission has been about really, wasn't worried so much about loss as I was gain.

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  3. I loved reading this and was so happy to hear you found a dress that you like and that you brought the right people with you for the shopping (makes such a difference). It's so important to feel like yourself on your wedding day, 13 years later I still bitterly regret that I allowed professinals to do my hair and make-up because I didn't look like my normal self and it was really disconcerting. It's such a horrible message to send to yourself that you need to be DIFFERENT on the day that is a celebration of the love between two people who hopefully deeply know and accept each other. I'm so glad I trusted my instinct about the right person to marry and look back with some pangs of regret about how I wanted to magically erase any ambivalent feelings about myself instead of embracing myself as someone who realistically isn't ever going to look like a supermodel. I'm so happy for you about it all and most especially send you wishes for a continued lovely life together. In the end it's the relationship that matters.

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment. I've decided to do my own hair and makeup (with help of my sister) for the reasons you felt pangs of regret (which I am sorry to hear). Everyone was surprised at me for this step but I wouldn't feel comfortable and I don't want to give up my love of Green Beauty on the day because I can't find those products with professionals.

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